Nowadays, it’s very common to hear about Emotional Intelligence (EI), but in some cases the concept is misunderstood or just ignored. People often consider EI as some minor “Psychology stuff…” without importance in our daily lives.
An introduction to Emotional Intelligence
We all know what Intelligence Quotient (IQ) is the measurement of our cognitive-intelligence abilities, or in other words, how dumb or a genius we are. But then, what does EI (Emotional Intelligence) mean?
First of all, we need to know what an emotion is. There are a lot of concepts, and theories, and it can lead to a complex debate with no ending. But, if I’m asked to give a definition on it I would say that an emotion is the way our mind responds (usually strongly/positive or negative way) to any mental (self) or external (others/environment) situation, and this response makes a change in our organism.
Imagine that you’re having a nice Friday evening at the office, you have almost finished your weekly task schedule and practically you’re just waiting to be at 6:00 PM and run out to your friend’s to spend the rest of the day and night watching a soccer game, having a beer (or six, who can blame?) and just relaxing. But then, that scary “High Important and Urgent” e-mail from your boss arrives. Yes, he’s saying that there are “a few” new things related to the project that weren’t consider before and the client is really impatient, so basically, the thing is that you must stay at work until it’s finished.
After this, you’ll instantly experiment an emotion, in fact, you’d probably started to respond with an emotion since the precise moment that you read the e-mail subject. And, this is something really important to know and be aware of, emotions are faster than rational thinking. Therefore, by the time you finished reading the e-mail, and before you can think in a rational way to react to it, your “emotional brain” has (probably) already done its job.
The most common emotion reported on these situations is ANGER/DISGUST, and I do agree. It’s perfectly understandable, BUT the important thing comes next…how are you going to “deal” with the situation? How able are you to identify your emotions and allow them or not to take control on your decisions and behavior in a positive/negative manner? How will your partner/co-worker/friend…feel and think about that situation?
Being conscious about all this is the first step to start working on your EI.
Having emotions, also if they’re “negative”, is not bad. In fact, as many people say, “You can’t see a rainbow without having a little rain”. Working on your emotional skills will let you know you better, being empathic with others and improve your personal and professional relationships.
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